I go from being extremely nice to him, to being bat shit crazy and screaming about OW. He was getting out. I am being the exact opposite of what she is finding attractive in this other man. And I know that, its just near impossible not to. His emotional state was that rocky. But it was the most defining moment b/c I took back my power and restored my self esteem. And if I said that to him it might be a wake up call, but then again, I might regret it 10 mins later and regret saying it. Is that stupid? But lied about it and snuck around. I would find my poker face, investigated, laid low until I could see with my own 2 eyes whether it was indeed friendship that went to far or more. He is using that to support his evil wife persona of you. and I think he knows that. And I believe it is because he is lying still. And it made his head spin. Now? I think he feels deep down that he should be doing things a certain way, but then convinces himself no, I deserve to be happy. All Rights Reserved. I told him he was free to live with the OW for all I cared I was not stopping him. She had made a regular hole in our sex schedule to accommodate him! I dont think she sees how much it hurts me. My biggest fear is that what im doing is somehow wrong and will come back to bite me for being so nice and giving him so much freedom. She is such a good person he would say to me. Or you can take some time to decide WHAT YOU WANT!! I want to be this busy person ive always been and do all these things, but im realizing that I did all those things before bc I felt so secure in my life having him as a husband. You have done everything possible you have tried discussing it. So is his snide comments that you seeing another guy. He was kicking me to the curb but when I asked him to leave he realized I was out of patience. I dont want to be mean to him, I want to just focus on me and the baby but its very very hard. It kills me every, single, day. In any event I always try to be positive and hope things turn around. And 2-3 days later he would tell me he wasnt sure what he wanted. Do you know if I will get your email address sent to me? You will get worn down and be emotionally empty. Many of these stories are helpful. I dont know what to do. his view on me became totally negative, and that started to change recently. You tell the spouse the truth. But I just dont know how to act. We havent had sex in almost 2 weeks, and I feel like when that stops its easier and easier to get into the friend role. It can lead to a renewed marriage. I should just be honest with him and tell him I dont know what to do and where we stand, but im so sick of bringing things up and watching his face just fall in annoyance (sometimes). I then realized it never ever had anything to do with me. Because that is something I will have to handle differently. Well that stopped after DDay2. I think its his conscious. He texted me last night when he was going to bed, and of course in my mind im still wondering if he is where he says he is, but im not asking questions. You have tried everything you could. I have explained to him that I feel like he no longer respects me, which he says is absolutely not true, but actions speak louder than words.
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